• Treat the person as you did before. This will let the person know that your relationship is still the same. Act natural and be yourself.
• Try not to stereotype patients. Keep things personal and use real names.
• Don’t assume a false cheerfulness. (You are not happy they are sick.)
• Allow your loved one every opportunity to make decisions about anything!!
• Don’t take offense if the person doesn’t follow your advice. The person may be trying to keep some independence. Be sensitive and diplomatic when taking over personal decisions.
• Help the person stay connected to the outside world. You can assist by making phone calls, writing letters, and helping to arrange visits with family and friends. Keep calendars and clocks visible.
• Include the person in family life, as much as possible. He/she will be glad with family successes, too.
• Encourage youngsters to read and play games with the ill person. Watch for fatigue, unless the person is having fun and wants to continue.
• Make the most of every good day.
• Help the person lead as normal a life as possible.
• Help your loved one find meaningful activities and short-term goals. Starting a lifetime memoir and keeping a journal are good starts.